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Friend, I hope that someday quickly the switch flips in your head - as it did mine - and you grow to be a non-user, without using willpower.

It is a life-altering day, when one wakes up and quits an addiction. You'll then want to help others wake up!

It's best to read this ebook straight by way of, don't skip ahead.

A free e book may be downloaded from: Smashwords (EPUB) ⬩ Apple Books ⬩ Barnes&Noble

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Concepts

Addict

If you possibly can stop fapping to screens for 2 months, no questions requested, then you definately won't be an addict. You might not must read this book. (I recommend you do anyway.)

But in the event you think you can’t give up, due to "addiction", "compulsion", "habit", or "curious fascination", read on! Trust me, I will lead you out of the hell you're in. This hell could make you are feeling empty inside, no need for any burning flames.

Whenever you finish this brief guide, you will know in case you are an addict, and that a porn addiction (which is solely a button you press to ship supernormal dopamine hits to your brain) has no advantages, so you'll be able to really feel joyful to quit!

Advantages (of Using Porn)

Anhedonia

A frequent skydiver can feel anhedonia (the inability to experience pleasure) in the rest of their life. This is similar for a person of porn, or a user of medication like cocaine, because these are all excessive dopamine activities.

Thus the pursuit of intense pleasure (hedonism), ironically, leads to the loss of it (anhedonia). Your brain is desensitized to the natural highs of life - speaking, smiling, learning, working, nature, train, and so forth. don’t really feel "high" like they need to.

It’s like your life is in grayscale, instead of coloration, and sadly you might not even understand it. For this reason quitting feels wonderful, after any withdrawals are over. Your brain’s dopamine receptors will heal and reverse their desensitization.

Boss

If a baby hears the sound of an ice cream truck, do they run across the street without on the lookout for oncoming cars?

No, your frontal lobe - the part of your mind that controls logic and reason - calls the photographs. It retains you alive. It might probably overrule your limbic mind, also called the "feeling" brain.

Every time it makes a call, it becomes simpler, like a habit, until finally you don’t give it some thought. All your rational brain needs is accurate information, and that's the purpose of this guide.

Brains

There are two major sources of thoughts. The primary supply is the limbic mind, which most mammals have, and it principally thinks about speedy gratification and minimizing pain over the subsequent 15 seconds.

The second supply is the frontal lobe, which gives people logic, cause, and the ability to plan far into the longer term.

With apply, one can bodily feel where a thought is coming from. The limbic brain is within the core and is the extra historical and primitive part of the mind. The frontal lobe is correct behind the forehead.

It feels good when your thoughts are coming from your frontal lobe. The alternative of this is hypofrontality - you’re basically a zombie, or a lemming, unable to assume rationally. I remember raging at issues like a toddler, having no self-control. Among the numerous scary symptoms of this addiction, that was the worst one for me.

I can inform you, after four months of recovery my frontal lobe felt tingly for a couple of days, prefer it expanded after years of neglect.

Brainwashing

The one purpose a porn person doesn’t quit is because they are brainwashed into considering they could be giving something up if they quit. This can be a lie. There are absolutely no advantages to utilizing porn.

Relaxation

It doesn’t relax you, it drains your power. As quickly as you finish, you’re within the comedown/crashing state (feeling crappy), and you get irritated and impatient with different people.

Real relaxation is a feeling of peace and steadiness, and it restores your energy. When you're actually relaxed and confident, you possibly can look girls in the eye, and smile pleasantly. Freedom is relaxing.

Stress

It doesn’t reduce stress, it provides to it. You always are worrying in case your secret is secure. You fear how rather more excessive your fetishes will get. Porn can’t "take away" stress from your life, it simply makes you less capable of deal with it. You have got trouble getting work done, as a result of your vitality and motivation are lost.

There are numerous other actions you can do, if you need a short lived distraction from desirous about problems and need a break.

Boredom

It doesn’t scale back boredom, it adds to it. You develop a habit of instantaneous gratification for dopamine hits, as a substitute of working slowly toward a small, actual goal. The natural highs in life don’t excite you and feel boring. Your frontal lobe, which does long term planning, isn’t getting enough train, and neither is your imagination.

If you happen to do as little as doable (which incorporates staying off of screens) for a period of time every day, it recharges your mind to dash and focus later. Embrace doing nothing, don’t let porn suck it away like a black gap.

Beauty

It doesn’t allow you to appreciate beauty. After years of looking for "new good 10s" which are "just your type" online, that thrill will become more durable to find, and you’ll spend most of your time looking in frustration for something new. The most popular, most surgically enhanced (pretend) ladies at the moment are just ordinary to you.

Fixating on the naked, sexual components of girls dulls your capacity to appreciate the beauty of their smile, or their eyes lighting up once they discuss or chuckle. After quitting porn, you may be amazed how beautiful real, on a regular basis women are - even with their clothes on!

Release

It doesn’t launch sexual cravings, it adds them. It stokes the fire as a substitute of letting it burn out. It puts you in a frenzied mindset of "I’m the last man alive and need to repopulate the planet, and women are just objects."

After quitting for four months, I've by no means felt calmer, and that continues to be true after 2 years. The wildfire is no longer raging.

Also, sex isn’t fulfilling, intimacy is. Intimacy is definitely an emotional want, not just physical, even for males. Porn does not provide intimacy, it retains you from discovering it.

Cheese

A mouse doesn’t know that cheese inside a wooden rectangle is bait in a entice.

Our limbic brain, also referred to as a feeling brain or mammalian brain, is in the middle of our head. It thinks pixels in a plastic rectangle are the highest objective in life. It doesn’t perceive that the pixels aren’t real.

Our limbic brain fell into the porn trap. But as soon as we see that it's a entice with no advantages, we can escape, and never have to fall into the entice once more.

Choice

Choice is our greatest energy in life. Once you understand you may have this power, you're like an eagle who grew up thinking he was a chicken, living with other chickens - however in the future learned he may fly. That eagle may return and keep residing with the chickens, but he will always know he’s not one among them any extra.

You don’t need blockers or accountability software program, though you possibly can choose to use them for your companion. You only need the right mindset, which is knowing that porn has zero advantages.

You may always select to use porn, however why would you?

Cold

If you're taking a cold shower (which is painful), you may feel good for hours afterward. People can also take this to unhealthy extremes, and change into addicted to pain.

It is because pleasure and ache are processed in the identical portion of the brain, and the mind automatically keeps the "seesaw" in steadiness.

PMO (porn-masturbate-orgasm) is the reverse of a cold shower. You feel moody, irritable, and drained for hours afterward, as the seesaw swings down on the opposite aspect, like a pendulum.

After years of PMO, the mind is constantly pushing down on the ache side of the seesaw to compensate. But feeling lousy on a regular basis is a small worth to pay for loving pixels, am I proper?

Coolidge Effect

A male rat feels glad after mating with the identical female a few times. Each time he mates with her, much less dopamine is released, and he takes longer breaks. This is sweet, otherwise he’d exhaust himself for no cause.

But if he sees a brand new feminine, a brand new dopamine surge takes over, and he is compelled to mate again. As an increasing number of new females are introduced, he will ultimately collapse from exhaustion.

The limitless number of new people on the internet (which is a supernormal stimulus) overclocks your brain, so you're by no means capable of take a break, and it drains your entire productive energy and motivation. Perhaps this biological mechanism (which most mammals have) was meant to stimulate reproduction after a war… but this time, we're waging war against ourselves.

Whenever you cease searching for novelty - together with porn, substitutes, and imagination - your sexual urges will return to a normal degree.

Education (Sexual)

Most girls like sluggish and gentle genital stimulation, with fingers or mouth, and that is after doing foreplay on their non-erogenous zones. And by gradual, I mean 20-30 minutes for massage, foreplay, arousal, stimulation, and climax - all earlier than any penetration.

Tell me what number of instances you've gotten seen that in a porn video. The answer might be never. Porn causes sexual autism - the lack to learn your partner’s verbal cues, eye contact, respiratory, and motion - the other of intimacy and connection.

You’re better off finding videos from precise intercourse ed instructors. Try "tantric yoni massage" or "sensate focus". P.S. It feels higher to give than receive!

Fantasy

"You can’t be ‘in the moment’ if you happen to spent the prior day anticipating that moment." - C. Smith

"Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall by no means be upset." - Alexander Pope

My mind has two superpowers. The first energy is envisioning all of the potential futures through which dangerous issues may occur. The second energy is envisioning all of the potential futures by which I may have intercourse with folks. Do you also have an energetic imagination like me?

Dopamine is pushed by anticipation, and when we spend time and energy anticipating a pleasurable event like intercourse - or watching a new movie - it tilts the brain’s seesaw of pleasure and ache into the up place. Then when the occasion occurs, it's chemically assured that you just won’t take pleasure in it as much, because the seesaw doesn’t have much room to go increased. In reality, the mind is attempting to pull the seesaw down to rebalance it.

My journey of two years has been this: 1) Stop watching porn, 2) Stop jerking off except my body is uncomfortable, 3) Stop anticipating or fantasizing about intercourse with my spouse the day(s) before it occurs, or imagining other girls. Now, I can truly take pleasure in intercourse and the whole lot else in my life so much more, because my brain’s seesaw starts off level.

Try this for a few days: don’t expect, anticipate, or fantasize about something good or unhealthy happening, particularly sex. Try to keep your brain’s seesaw at a level position, so it’s ready to obtain joy and blessings if and after they happen that day. And in the event that they don’t happen, your seesaw doesn’t crash downward as exhausting - it’s a win/win.

For me, studying WHY I should cease imagining sex has been life changing. It lets me really be "in the moment" and recognize real life.

Flatline

After quitting porn, you could feel no libido for a long time period - this is known as the "flatline". A flatline is normal, and the size depends on how excessive the porn use was and how younger you started. Many anecdotal reviews are in the vary of 1-6 months. (Mine was forty five days.)

The flatline means your brain is "rebooting", so it is going to change into excited by real women as soon as once more. After the flatline is over, bodily issues reminiscent of erectile dysfunction and delayed ejaculation ought to enhance and even be cured.

Some males have been happening a flatline for 2 years, and still have complete ED. I feel sorry for these men. That is why all porn customers ought to be pitied, not envied.

Food

Porn is definitely simple to give up. It's because it supplies no advantages - you can completely throw it out from your life. You wouldn’t eat a poison "in moderation", proper?

Food, which it's essential to eat recurrently as long as you want to remain alive, takes much more ongoing self-discipline to avoid the trap of over consumption.

So whether you have got discovered how to manage your weight, via eating regimen / fasting / and so on., or are nonetheless struggling, take heart - quitting porn is easier!

P.S. Porn doesn’t allow you to drop some weight, it helps you gain it. All that additional chronic stress in your life generates cortisol, a fat-storing hormone. I lost half an inch of waistline in month 4, without trying.

Gambling

Have you ever ever looked down on playing addicts? I know I did.

Is spending an hour binge trying to find simply the precise new site, video, or particular person, without crossing over the "red line" into one thing disturbing, that totally different from enjoying a slot machine? When looking for porn, the uncertainty, anticipation, and even fear can cause very intense feelings. Dopamine is very driven by anticipation, which is why you'll be able to search for long intervals of time.

Now imagine attempting to play poker in opposition to yourself. Would that be very exciting? It wouldn’t be as thrilling, as a result of you realize the playing cards in both arms. You’re not going to bluff or surprise yourself! This is the reason I think fapping to your individual imagination is much less harmful - it doesn’t have an excessive amount of surprise, novelty, and dopamine.

Do I still remember some scenes from porn? Honestly, yes - however they're much less stimulating. It’s like an outdated, burnt cigarette, that generates a small amount of dopamine. What has been seen can’t be unseen, however it can get blurrier over time, and never dwelled upon.

Genghis Khan

Even Genghis Khan would blush at the quantity of digital girls the web provides.

Too many men immediately are Genghis Khant - 500 virtual concubines, however "Khant" get it up, or "Khant" finish! What nice information for the CEOs of drug firms! Remember when ED pills were solely marketed to the elderly?

Even when they’re sporting swimsuits, constant visual novelty will overclock your brain and you will develop the same bodily and psychological issues as different porn customers.

Surrender

You don’t "give up" a poison. That implies some sort of sacrifice. Here is what you're "giving up" if you give up porn and dopamine addiction:

Brain fog (problem focusing or learning)

Lethargy (fatigue, lack of energy, motivation, and confidence)

Erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation (can’t end)

Social anxiety, inability to look ladies in the eye and see them as folks

Anhedonia (unable to feel pleasure from the pure highs in life)

Irritability, impatience, anxiety, stress, depression

Sexual autism (not being in a position to attach intimately with a associate)

Inability to make use of your personal imagination during sex, as an alternative of someone else’s

Bizarre fetishes, escalation to disturbing genres

Inconsistent sleep schedule, because of binge looking and staring at synthetic mild

Chronic stress and elevated cortisol, which for some folks trigger weight achieve

Slavery (to screens and pixels)

Gooner

A gooner is someone who absolutely embraces porn addiction and edging (delaying orgasm). They're more intentional and brag about it, in comparison with coomers. They've a message board for exhibiting off their "goon caves".

Gooners don’t know where the hedonism highway leads to, which is Anhedonia, situated at the bottom of a cliff. For those who edge for hours a day, your mind turns right into a vegetable. You get mind fog, can’t write coherently, can’t memorize information, and your dick can shrivel up and shrink.

Some even report physical issues similar to fatigue, aches, dizziness, and heart issues - dopamine is important for physical motion of your physique!

I have witnessed all these statements from former gooners and gooners who're struggling to give up. Some have started a message board just for "gooner recovery".

I was practically a gooner myself for a number of months. I understand how much it messes you up. Please don’t turn out to be a gooner.

Habit

Part of your brain, the basal ganglia, is your autopilot. It does issues without you occupied with it, like navigating routes you continuously walk or drive. It frees up the remainder of your brain to consider other issues.

For instance, you in all probability don’t have to suppose consciously about where the trash can is in your kitchen. But if you progress the trash can to a new location, then it takes some time to your autopilot to get educated on new habits. It is going to take time to fully neglect in regards to the previous location, i.e. the previous behavior.

Similarly, it is best to anticipate 3-four months on your "autopilot" to completely neglect about using porn. You may think that's a long time, but it’s not. It’s barely longer than a season, corresponding to spring or summer season. A season will be gone before you comprehend it, and then you will feel and behave like a distinct individual.

Be patient along with your autopilot, and it'll soon be helping you stay on the right track.

Hacking

"In Soviet Russia, laptop hack you!"

Movies usually present an individual hacking a computer. This can be a lie.

In reality, computer systems do most of the hacking - into our brains. Our mental working techniques are being corrupted by viruses.

These mental viruses are named "Pornhub", "Candy Crush", "World of Warcraft", "Reddit", titty-twister.vip and many others. All of them work by overloading our natural dopamine expectations. The answer is to unplug them.

HALTS

This stands for Hunger, Anger, Loneliness, Tiredness, and (after) Sex.

Be aware of those times, especially in the primary 3 months of restoration, as a result of:

1) You're feeling additional low during these instances, as a result of your brain’s seesaw of pleasure and pain continues to be rebalancing.

2) You've behavior pathways in your mind which are greased up to seek PMO as your default "pick me up" action.

Great information! Both of those physical mechanisms will slowly but surely go away. It is completely regular to really feel them. Just be aware of them and allow them to pass.

I added Sex, because the post-dopamine crash you're feeling after sex is a chief time to really feel urges. Always remember that sex is essentially a drug - it feels good however there’s a strong comedown interval afterward. (Sadly, the higher something feels, the stronger the comedown!)

Incentive

Your urologist wants to put in writing you a prescription for pills, because that makes them more money. My urologist didn’t even ask me about porn, and his malpractice and greed brought about me more years of suffering: low vitality and motivation in my entire life, along with ED and DE. (Thankfully, my erectile issues acquired fastened after quitting porn for a couple of months, and my mental health is better than ever.)

Porn sites, internet websites, and cam girls wish to earn a living - with out restrict. "Use us in moderation!", they chortle, as dollar signs flash in their eyes. Do you suppose they solely wish to earn money in moderation?

The only individual with true incentive for your most well being - not simply protecting you on life support to extract limitless funds - is you. Considered one of my favourite sayings is, "There’s no one I ever met who might do it for me."

Masturbation

For the primary 20 months after I stopped watching porn, my simple rule was to by no means fap to screens, solely memory or imagination. It by no means felt as unhealthy afterward, like porn or screens did.

But one day, I used to be "completely fed up" with jerking off, despite the fact that it had been a continuing ritual since I used to be a teenager, earlier than porn and screens. I wished to stop as a result of I used to be lacking a strong reference to my wife, due to another stupid addiction. I also felt like the necessity to jerk off was controlling me.

Thus far, quitting has been surprisingly simple, and intercourse with my wife is extra vibrant and passionate. She is the just one who touches me, and i get more oxytocin (really feel-good, love bonding hormone) from her. I want I had stopped sooner! It jogs my memory of a saying about relationships: "The grass is greenest the place you water it."

If in case you have a logical cause to give up jerking off, it may be loads easier than you assume.

Math

There may be an previous saying about addictions: 1 time is simply too many, and 1000 instances isn’t enough.

The point isn’t to scare you, it’s to educate you. I'm truly happiest when I am doing it 0 instances, and am in control of my life. Imagine you took a train to your required vacation spot, and obtained off at exactly the right station.

Watching sexual imagery (even "PG-13") and having a dopamine rush take over one time is like lacking one stop on the practice. You feel annoyed, your time and energy feels wasted, and you have one cease to backtrack. You recognize that missing 1000 stops won’t be any higher, so that you get off the prepare and switch around.

Maturity

If you're younger than 25, I have dangerous news for you: your rational mind might be not finished developing. Car insurance coverage and rental firms know this. The military is aware of this. Scientists doing mind scans of the prefrontal cortex have figured it out too - on common, it stops growing at age 25.

I did really loopy things in the course of the 13-24 age vary. Most people do, as a result of their feeling mind is running wild and seeking thrills.

However, it is very essential not to do medicine, alcohol, or porn when your mind is still growing - it's more susceptible and impressionable.

Meaning

Sadhu Sundar Singh was as soon as requested, "What is life’s most troublesome job?" He instantly replied: "To haven't any burden to carry." (Full Story)

In case you have meaning in your life - a positive burden to carry - porn and dopamine desensitization will not help you carry it. If you don't yet have that means in your life, porn and dopamine desensitization is not going to assist you discover it.

While in some circumstances depression could cause porn and video game addiction, normally (including myself, when I used to be a teenager) it is the alternative: the addictions and dopamine desensitization are causing or worsening the depression. What do it's a must to lose, by attempting a free experiment on yourself?

When I used to be enjoying video video games every single day, and lusting and jerking off every single day, and consuming for 12 hours a day - all of which took no effort - I didn’t really accomplish something. Why take on any challenge in any respect, when all the pieces feels so easy?

After quitting these addictions, I wrote two ebooks, took tennis classes, took voice over lessons and did some gig work, created a video collection, and skim books to my sons and had conversations with them about all sorts of subjects. (I didn’t have the vitality for this before, and my expertise just isn't unusual.)

While one can argue intellectually that everything in life is meaningless, a life without challenge is doubly meaningless. I can look again now and feel a way of satisfaction and accomplishment that I didn't have before. That’s why addictions are so dangerous, they take away all problem, and with out problem there may be no feeling of accomplishment, which is a primary goal in life.

Mellow

After quitting porn, I feel more calm and "mellow" than I’ve been in years.

For instance, seeing a lady smile feels very nice, and never just in a sexual approach, but a deeper manner. It’s arduous to place into phrases. It’s like I can expertise delicate joys once more.

Even the vibrant colours of women’s clothing appear more noticeable to me. Remember how anhedonia makes your life appear like it’s in grayscale?

I really feel like years of porn and porn substitutes turned my mind molten hot, like a nuclear reactor melting down, however now it’s slowly cooling off and I'm discovering some peace.

The stormy waves in my thoughts have modified into a easy, still lake. It’s an incredible feeling of balance and contentment. I consider that smashing my brain with dopamine "junk food" was stopping me from discovering this place, however that is where I would like to stay.

Sure, I still assume the world has a ton of problems, and i nonetheless despair fascinated by them. But there’s additionally a novel sort of peace in accepting that which you can not change.

Mirror

The particular person in the mirror might be your best good friend, or worst enemy.

They can block your makes an attempt, earlier than you even attempt. "We should be a prisoner", they say.

Or they can say "Yes we can", as you start each day. "Yes, we need to be free."

You may go loads farther in life, when the individual within the mirror is your good friend.

Pain

You don’t punch your self. You don’t minimize yourself. You don’t stare on the sun.

You also don’t have to use porn. That is, unless you want to be setting world data for the way long a person can have PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction) and hypofrontality (zombie brain). Those accidents don’t heal in a single day, guys!

P.S. Avoiding pain and bodily harm shouldn’t be a religious or spiritual battle, or make you are feeling responsible. It's just rational logic.

Pleasure

"Addiction is giving up every little thing for ONE Thing. Recovery is giving up one thing for Everything." - Unknown

An orgasm from porn feels good for 10 seconds. Congratulations, it drained happiness and energy from the remainder of your life to try this!

A porn person, cigarette person, and heroin user have not tricked the universe and found a magic source of happiness. They don't have extra total happiness of their lives than non-customers. That is obvious to any non-user.

All a porn consumer does is practice their mind to find pleasure in a single specific activity, and is sad and irritable the remainder of the time. Read the Cold part to know the neuroscience.

P.S. Your brain will get bored after doing the identical thing many occasions. Porn is just not exempt from this rule. Over time, porn or drugs don’t "provide a high", they "remove a low". Which one feels better: the primary time, or the thousandth time?

Rationalizing

A porn consumer, cigarette user, and heroin consumer don't care if there are ninety nine disadvantages to their addiction, in the event that they think there may be one advantage.

Here is what to do if your "feeling brain" (limbic brain) tries to scare you with a flimsy argument like "You’ve been in recovery for months… aren’t you scared you will overlook your favorite scenes?"

You don’t redirect to the 99 disadvantages of using porn. That solely lends validity to the feeling brain’s invalid argument, and it feeds on concern.

What you do is counter the argument, head on. For instance, 1) I can remember issues from decades ago, 2) masturbation from reminiscence isn’t helping my life anyway, 3) the stuff I remember isn’t serving to me with actual intercourse.

After you dismantle that argument and show it has no benefit, the feeling mind can’t use it once more. The feeling brain all the time bluffs. Call every bluff.

Imagine your limbic brain is a dumb electrical appliance. If you unplug ninety nine out of 100 power cords (false reasons to use porn), it doesn’t know you did that, all it is aware of is it still has power. You need to unplug every cord, each motive. Then, you will see that peace like you’ve never recognized.

Rattle

A death rattle is the gurgling sound that comes proper earlier than demise, resulting from being unable to swallow or cough.

After quitting porn for a couple of months, if you are feeling some subtle urges, imagine that these are the death rattles of dying habits and pathways in your mind. Your mind is saying, "Use this connection or lose it." The clever selection is to lose it.

After time, you won't really feel these urges. Your mind will prune unused neural connections (aka habits). Relax, time is your greatest buddy!

Shame

"Do you recognize why there's disgusting porn? Because they got bored of the non-disgusting porn."

The higher your feelings of disgrace, sin, or anxiety, and the more taboo and fetishized the content material is, the higher of a dopamine rush you feel. This solely will increase the power of the addiction pathway, causing more neuro-wiring and desensitization!

Then you are feeling extra disgrace, and crave a choose-me-up to feel higher, and the cycle endlessly repeats. You can’t struggle an addiction with shame, it simply strengthens it.

Doing cycles of abstinence, adopted by bingeing, can also be very habit forming as a result of depth of the dopamine.

Learn to determine these novelty cravings (aka supernormal dopamine rushes), choose not to act on them, and give yourself some grace. Neurons might be re-wired and re-sensitized over time, to seek out pleasure within the non-shocking, non-gross, natural highs of actual life.

Shoes

Imagine somebody said they wore footwear all day that had been too tight, just so they could experience pleasure once they took them off within the evening. Do you suppose that is smart? After all not. You wouldn’t say that tight shoes provide pleasure.

But as quickly as a porn person finishes a PMO session, their dopamine levels crash lower than a non-person. They feel irritable, just like if they were sporting tight shoes. They crave one other PMO session just to get rid of their hangover stress, which was really brought on by their earlier PMO session!

Thus, the porn lure is just like sporting tight sneakers just to acquire the pleasure of taking them off, and doing this over and over again.

Porn customers - just like all other drug users - are continually trying to get again to the same degree of happiness and relaxation that non-users expertise in on a regular basis life.

Sleep

A non-user can go to sleep just positive.

They aren’t up for hours binge searching, or staring at artificial light. They actually feel like a traditional particular person, and aren’t trying to get disgusting thoughts out of their head.

They go to bed feeling relaxed, not drained, and can follow a consistent sleep schedule. They wake up energized, because they at all times get enough sleep. (Rhythm is vital for optimal well being.)

They lie in mattress with a feeling of peace, calm respiration and heartbeat, they usually think about the pure highs of the day, like an afterglow. They assume about hopes for tomorrow.

They've motivation and focus to plan what they need to do the following day (and subconsciously sleep on those ideas).

Porn doesn't aid you sleep. That is a ridiculous lie. I hope you rediscover what complete relaxation and freedom really feel like!

Slob

After quitting porn, I observed I was carrying nicer wanting clothes that I hadn’t felt like wearing in years, when going out in public. It feels good to look good once more! That is one other natural excessive that I had misplaced because of my addiction.

The stereotype of a coomer wanting like a slob is true, as a result of dopamine desensitization makes them not care about or spend any time on their look.

Smoking

Why do some people still smoke cigarettes? Is there any benefit to being a smoker? Do you suppose smokers are less burdened, less bored, happier, or focus higher? Ha, it’s the opposite!

Before you snigger too much, how is being a porn person any higher than being a cigarette person?

One ruins your lungs. The opposite ruins your mind and your dick. They both work by retaining you on a dopamine treadmill of hits and withdrawals, producing billions of dollars for a number of large companies. Users are pitied, not envied.

The solution to give up both of them is the same: understand that the addiction doesn’t have a single benefit in comparison with a non-user.

Spicy

A minority of women like extra variety in lovemaking, like masculine domination or sensory play, however there are much better assets than porn to teach you ways to do that correctly. There are glorious feminine sex instructors who can educate you easy methods to do it in a loving method. In case your associate doesn’t like it, why would you do it?

All sorts of intimate sex require trust, safety, communication, experimentation, and connection. That’s what intimacy means.

Intimacy contains learning about and figuring out your companion at a deep level, how they are distinctive from some other person on the planet, and specializing in them alone - and what they like.

Porn causes sexual autism, and your partner can tell you're in a disconnected trance - they'll close off from attempting or enjoying new issues.

Substitutes

Models, athletes, video recreation characters, etc. are merely completely different colored buttons you press to maintain the supernormal dopamine rushes coming to your mind, from novelty and Coolidge effect, and your sexual cravings caught in the very best gear.

They also keep your brain caught in "objectification" mode, as a substitute of "empathy for an additional person" mode.

After quitting porn *and all substitutes* for a few months, your sexual urges and cravings ought to really lower, and you'll increase the flexibility to see women as dwelling beings (and really feel much less awkward round them). Just fap from reminiscence or imagination, and after just a few more months even that urge will lessen.

For those who stumble on a social media thirst trap, fan service in anime, or a sex scene in a film, don’t despair, the novelty (Coolidge effect) should put on off in a number of days. In the event you fapped to the memory of it, each time will become less pleasurable. Avoiding all sexual content material is easier said than done, however don’t seek it.

Sun

In the event you stare at the solar for a couple of seconds, and then go into a dim room, it’s hard to see anything in any respect.

A porn addict "stares on the sun" every time, and gets desensitized to the natural highs of life, which have less dopamine. Even eating food can really feel less satisfying. (Yep, your sense of style releases dopamine!)

Fortunately, if you cease looking on the solar - or utilizing porn - you'll be able to normally get better. Neither exercise is ever recommended in your health.

Supernormal

Did you know that feminine barn swallows will mate with a rejected male if you utilize a felt-tip marker to darken his chest feathers? Did you know that male jewel beetles have sex with a brown beer bottle as a substitute of willing females, or that male wasps have sex with orchid flowers because they seem like feminine wasps?

In the age of Cleopatra there was eye liner to make eyes appear greater, and lipstick and blush to use reddening. I hope you don’t assume human brains are very completely different from these animals!

The modern world offers us unprecedented know-how, abundance, and population density. We see supernormal hair and sweetness products, clothes corresponding to spandex and push-up bras, additional candy, salty, acidic, caffeinated, or crunchy foods, and limitless leisure and sexual imagery - even sex dolls and vibrators.

There's nothing normal about today’s world. Our limbic (feeling) brains are all stumbling around - typically you just need to chuckle!

Time

If you would go back in time, would you vow to by no means begin the cycle of watching porn? Would you encourage your youngsters or buddies to use it, or warn them about it?

Your time and a spotlight is one of the crucial generous gifts you can provide to another particular person. Would you somewhat give that reward to pixels, or your family?

Imagine you had a tombstone with dates written on it. How a lot of that time was spent either doing PMO, or feeling drained and irritable after PMO?

You can’t go back in time and undo it, but that doesn’t imply you need to be an addict till the day you die. Your chance is NOW - spell that backwards and it’s Won! You win your life again, and quit nothing!

Tricked

Sex has an analogous dopamine stage as morphine, a narcotic drug. It has the next dopamine degree than every other natural exercise.

Did you know that PMO (porn-masturbate-orgasm) could be like doing narcotic medicine? Do you know that like a drug user, you would spend every day on a rubber band of "highs" and lows? Did you know your mind develops an immunity (tolerance) over time, similar to with medicine?

Do you know you would be an addict? Do you know you would need a "more extreme fix" yearly, that desensitizes you to enjoying actual life, and even DOING real life?

No, you had been probably tricked. Porn is solely the button you discovered to press to deliver your mind a chemical excessive. None of us selected to be an addict.

Luckily, the extra you might have used this drug and felt the unfavorable results, the more joy and relief you'll really feel when quitting!

Truth

"Once uncovered, a secret loses all its power." - Ann Aguirre

Telling the truth to someone - about all actions in your life, not just porn - is vital throughout restoration, because it restores the break up between your two brains (pondering and feeling), and lets the thinking brain regain control.

It feels so a lot better when you are back to residing one life, not two lives. Cognitive dissonance (doing one factor while figuring out it's wrong) can really feel bodily uncomfortable, like a headache.

In fact, watch out who you tell and when. Just as men (and women) will be tricked into fapping to pixels, their accomplice can compare themselves to these pixels and be very damage.

Willpower

Great news! You don’t want willpower to completely stop a porn / dopamine addiction. It’s a fallacy to suppose you need willpower to stop something that has no profit! Individuals who use "willpower" solely feel harassed, deprived, and tempted, and certain will fail over the long run, because they failed to take away their Brainwashing.

You solely need to see the addiction has zero advantages. In the event you don’t see it yet, take a break for a couple of days, and skim the ideas once more. Take notes on the whole lot you agree or disagree with.

Indeed, some folks expertise physical withdrawals for a number of weeks (rebalancing the seesaw of pleasure and pain in the mind). Withdrawals are momentary, but seeing the reality is perpetually - just like once you discover how a magic trick works.

The only cage is in your imagination - you can break it and soar!

Next Steps

Friend, you could feel confused or fearful at this level. This is expected, you are not alone or abnormal. Your voice of reality has just been hibernating for a very long time.

Important: Don't Stop your PMO (porn-masturbate-orgasm) usage for the time being, if you're presently a user. Keep pressing that button, and generating those supernormal chemical rushes in your brain. It will allow you to see and prove the truth, that it has zero advantages. It also helps to not have withdrawals while you’re learning and memorizing the ideas.

But keep studying the earlier elements of this e-book daily. Take notes on what you agree or disagree with. Your PMO utilization would possibly slowly lower as you keep studying. It might take 2-3 full readings of the concepts for all the "fog" to clear in your mind.

You may print out the table of contents, or copy it right into a doc, and examine off which of the 40 concept words you agree or disagree with.

You may discover the Resources chapter for extra detailed explanations and science.

Choices

Choice is your best energy in life. After you've learn this ebook sufficient times to know the concepts, you possibly can:

1) Continue utilizing porn. (No change)

2) Reduce your porn utilization. (Moderation)

3) Go to the final Visit chapter, which is non-obligatory but many people discover helpful, to say goodbye to the lure.

4) Not use porn once more, and go straight to the Recovery chapter.

Remember: you will have these 4 decisions accessible day-after-day of your life!

The final Visit

Have you determined to give up? Only you can make this determination, nobody else can make it for you. Only you understand what offers you the most happiness.

When you have *any doubts*, or any doom and gloom, reread this e book or get your full $zero refund! Maybe counseling, prayer, help teams, doing more activities, removing gadgets, or rehab would work better for you.

Have the wings in your thoughts finally opened? The reality is that you could be free, should you "get it" by now.

Trust me, good friend, and be part of me on the opposite facet. The sun is shining, and the eagles are soaring. We’re ready for you, and we love you. You don’t belong in this place.

1) You made it this far in the book because you need to flee. So make that decision now, that this will be the final visit. This time you perceive you aren’t giving something up - you’re getting again your life!

2) Browse the pictures and videos in your favourite site consciously, looking at their desperate makes an attempt to create novelty, shock, and supernormal stimulus, and ask yourself - was I using this site, or was it using me? How is that this helping my life?

3) If you lastly close the browser, do so with a feeling of freedom, like "This is nice! I’m free! I’m now not an addict (aka slave) to porn or screens! I don’t need to be controlled by these websites (aka traps) ever again!"

Congratulations, you are now a FREE non-person! Remember this second!

Recovery

Brown Belt Level

The brown belt stage of recovery is achieved by quitting porn use.

For a few weeks, you may really feel withdrawals because the seesaw in your mind is rebalancing - it just lost numerous weight on the pleasure facet! This is an efficient factor, as a result of you will eventually grow to be extra delicate to the natural highs of real life.

1) Give your self loads of put-ups! A put-up is a constructive affirmation, the other of a put-down, and is a great habit to do on yourself and others. Think about how great your freedom might be! A optimistic mindset should help lessen or remove any withdrawals. (Yep, that’s science too!)

2) Quitting might make you're feeling very pleased (euphoric) and want to fap. Do it from reminiscence, imagination, or feeling, and you will settle down ultimately, as long as you aren’t using Substitutes.

3) You continue to have some battles to fight, until your wings get stronger. Listen to Habit, HALTS, Rattle, Rationalizing, Truth, Flatline.

4) Every single day, take time to be nonetheless and do nothing. No screens. You're used to immediate dopamine hits, that needs to cease. Take lengthy mental resets every day and get better at it.

5) Keep a journal of all of the adjustments you feel, month after month. This can be your story and motivation for the future.

Black Belt Level

The black belt level of recovery is achieved by completely knocking out the pretend-dopamine seesaw in your thoughts and taking control over it. I got my black belt at age 43, and that i hope you get yours sooner than I did.

As talked about in the Fantasy section, dopamine is driven simply by ideas, significantly ANTICIPATION of pleasure, ache, or stress.

For at the very least one week, do this:

No porn. It might assist if you have already finished this for a minimum of 90 days.

No fapping, until your physique is uncomfortable.

No fantasizing about sex or lusting. You can have sex, just don’t fantasize about it beforehand.

No anticipating future pleasure or pain. For example: how many likes or dislikes a publish will get, or how enjoyable or nerve-racking a social occasion will be.

You’re heading in the right direction if you start noticing how tense and tight your mind feels whenever you start anticipating pleasure or pain. If you catch yourself dwelling on such a thought, stop the thought and you will feel calmer.

The purpose is to unlock a brand new mind-set, known as "no mind", or "mushin" in Japanese. It's about dwelling only in the current, and never being a slave to any emotional want. It is extremely hard to elucidate in writing, it's something it's a must to experience for yourself. But once you unlock this frame of mind, you'll be able to always get into it simply, and your life won't be the same.

Basically, it looks like this video. Good luck, and please go away a comment or email me while you get your black belt.

Parting Words

As each month passes, you'll really feel even better, till you might be bursting with joy. Use that newfound power to carry restoration to individuals your addiction hurt. Don’t just put your new vitality into a distinct addiction, like video games or social media.

You might really feel just a little fearful and unsure as you enterprise into your new freedom. Time is your greatest pal, it will cross.

You will now marvel why so many people are nonetheless caught on this lure, and pity them, particularly the youngsters who were by no means warned about it, or protected from it.

Good luck, reside smart, live free! Read the total Story of the Eagle, and discover the Resources part for further wisdom.

About Me

When I used to be 19, I was depressed and had no which means in my life. I performed video games, fapped to screens, listened to gangsta rap, obsessed about my physical imperfections, and was a miserable individual to be around. I dropped out of college. I had no clue about life, girls, or relationships. My dad and mom were divorced.

At age 24, my brain finally matured and that i began successfully relationship (after reading Doc Love) and I found that means in life.

From age 30-40 I slowly began using more and more porn. I didn’t assume I was an addict, but additionally thought I could never cease fapping to screens. (Makes excellent sense, proper?)

I was having increasingly more issues, resembling getting irritated from the smallest stresses, lacking motivation and persistence, and having ED and DE.

A free e-book (Easy Peasy Method) saved me from this addiction. Quitting was mostly simple, and i had no withdrawals in any respect. I was overjoyed to have my life back, see the reality, and finally have freedom!

I began this new, concise information after being free for four months. I feel so blessed to have this new energy and positivity.

Some private well being suggestions:

I stopped video video games as a result of most are blatantly addictive, pretend sources of dopamine. Many games additionally use gambling mechanisms.

One in every of my psychological resets is a long bath. I give attention to doing nothing, and never anticipating or fantasizing about any pleasure or ache. This additionally provides me a break from screens.

I fast for 18 hours a day, eat low carb, and completely like it. I feel like an apex predator when I’m fasting.

I attempt to carry weights once a week, take a stroll, get sunlight / vitamin D - basic stuff. The great thing is, I wish to do this stuff!

A weight has been lifted from my life, and that i had no thought it was so heavy. I'm thankful every day for freedom and no more brain fog.

Make it an excellent day! I hope you soar!

- C. Smith

P.S. If this methodology helped you, consider sharing these flying-eagle-technique.org cards. Out of those 8 playing cards, I consider 1 will "click" for somebody.

P.P.S. If this e book was useful, consider writing a review, so others can find it.

Letters

- "You don’t understand how dangerous I wanted this. Thank you."

- "It’s insane how a lot is relatable."

- "Blowing my mind."

- "You’ve been very helpful to me, more useful than something or anyone else in my life."

- "This book that you've despatched was completely Him giving me what I need to give up. Thanks, lots."

- "I read the location high to backside, my face turned white, and that i haven’t checked out it [porn] since."

- "I’ve struggled with this terrible addiction for a very long time, even after studying the hackbook. But the best way you explained it in your site actually made one thing ‘click’ in my brain and i lastly ‘got it’"

Resources

Many thanks to those inspiring people and sources, and that i hope some of them enable you to.

WARNING: A few of these sources may be sexually express.

Addiction

• Your Brain on Porn 2015 - Gary Wilson (RIP) - Must watch!

• Good Pictures Bad Pictures - Kristen Jenson - Excellent ebook for ages 7-12, to arrange them.

• Dopamine Nation - Dr. Anna Lembke

• Supernormal Stimuli - Deirdre Barrett

• Sexual Autism - Chris Rock

• Why Christians are bad at quitting p*rn - Mark Queppet

• Easy Solution to Quit Smoking - Allen Carr (RIP)

Sex Education

• How a girl climaxes - Susan Bratton - Excellent free video on how a girl slowly gets engorged and climaxes. I additionally suggest video #three of her "Steamy Sex Ed" course - seeing tantric vulva massage demonstrated is really enlightening, 10/10.

Dating Advice

• The System - Doc Love (RIP) - Nobody understands girls better than the Doc. He modified me from a clueless and brainwashed loser, to a happily married man.

• (New) Check out my website The real Chad Move and take the quiz!